If I had known that I would pass my due date with 5 days and still counting back when I got pregnant, I might have lied to everyone and told them I was due March 1st!
Patience has never been a strong side of mine, but I'm mentally preparing myself for not going into labour in the next week or so. It's perfectly normal that a first time pregnancy will pass the due date with up to 2 weeks. Convincing myself is starting to work, but when I get a phone call or a text from someone asking if I have given birth...
And all of the sudden I feel like they are blaming me for doing something wrong. When I tell them I still haven't given birth, they answer they didn't think so, because then I would have called or texted them... well why the h*** do you ask then? Rationally I know people only ask because they are interested and because they care, but because of the hormones (or what do I know) I feel like I'm doing something wrong.
It all became too much on Saturday where I broke down crying! Not a thing I'm proud of, but I just couldn't take it any longer. So now I'm screening my calls only answering when my parents or my in laws are calling (can you believe that my mother in law didn't call until yesterday, and I hadn't talked to her since Monday, almost a whole week), or if I know that this is someone I can talk honestly to, and I haven't been answering any texts over the weekend (one friend have been texting me everyday to hear if I have given birth, and that she doesn't expect me to but if I can please make sure I will tell her as soon as I have!).
On Thursday a couple of friends came by after they had been grocery shopping. It was the best, they weren't asking if it wasn't about time to pop the baby. She actually told me a neutral friend had come home from a skiing vacation and asked them if I had given birth. She had given the perfect answer "I don't know, but I'm sure we will know if she have, and I'm not calling them to ask, I remember that being the worst thing people could do when I was pregnant". I love her for that comment, if only she talked to more of our friends:)
So if I haven't given birth by Thursday I have an appointment at the midwife, where I think she will order an ultrasound for the week after, and if then I still haven't given birth they might give me something to go into labour all depending on how the ultrasound will go.
Sorry for the long complaining post, I hope you all will have a great week!
Oh connie, I can imagine how frustrated you are right now. Just hang on in there and try and enjoy this time with your husband, when it's just the two of you.
ReplyDeleteJonas will come out when he's good and ready: maybe he just wants a little more time to grow and develop.
He's such a lucky little boy to have so many people eagerly awaiting his arrival :)
Lots of love. Xx
Ps: your brother will be happy that your parents were able to help him move!!
Aww! I am sure it isn't easy to wait - but I bet it will all be worth it when you see the little guy! Good luck, lady! I am thinking about you!
ReplyDeletethat's so good that you're screening your calls!! seriously, why put yourself through that frustration of answering the "birth" question. you have way better things to think about, so just shut out everything else.
ReplyDeleteIt must be so frustrating for you. I was lucky both times and went into labour early (4 days early with Zoe and a week early with Grace) so I don't know exactly how you feel. But I wouldn't be impressed with people calling/texting asking if it happened yet or not. Annoying!
ReplyDeleteIt's okay, Connie. I remember those feelings well. I was so tired and SO PREGNANT waiting for my second to arrive, and I shed quite a few tears of frustration while I waited.
ReplyDeleteSoon he'll be here, and we'll all be thrilled to bits for you! In the meantime, sending you happy, relaxing vibes. Try to enjoy the "me time" and get as much rest as you can.
Thinking of you!
When my sister was two weeks late I kept telling her that the due date was something the doctor gave her, but her baby was the only person who knew when he/she was ready to come out. You just gotta trust your body and you baby that when the time is right, he will appear. It's hard to be patient, but if the baby isn't in any stress, why make him arrive any earlier than he wants too? And just ignore the annoying, persistent people - they will be like that no matter what. Those type of people really popped out when I was unemployed and felt it was completely necessary to call/email me on a daily basis and ask if I had found a job. I figure it must feel the same when you're pregnant and people keep bothering you. It's just not fun.
ReplyDeleteGood luck in these last few weeks and enjoy it as much as possible!
Oh my goodness I would be so frustrated! I'm not good at being patient either!
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